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Mystery Package. Their names are listed
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of a "Live a Life of Inspiration, Magic
and Passion" tote bag.
1. Feature Article:
Inspirational, Motivational, Passionate
2. Coaching Q&A:
What Would You Have Done? Part 2
3. News, Comments, Success Stories, Winners
4. Inspirational Message to Ponder
You've probably figured out by now that I'm a bookaholic.
With
the gift giving season fast approaching, I encourage you to think
of books for the people on your list.
Here are suggestions for books that are, well, read the
title...
The Passion Test by
Janet and Chris Attwood Beyond Positive Thinking by Robert
Anthony The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt
Commitment to
Your Mate by Gary Chapman
After choosing those three titles, I realized they are
included on
the Introducing My Picks
page
http://www.TheImpLady.com/links.htm
Check out more there.
A book I recently bought is The
Power of an Hour: Business and
Life Mastery in One Hour a Week by Dave Lakhani. I now schedule
a weekly Power Hour.
"101 Great Ways to Improve Your
Life, Volume 2 is a great bathroom
book" pipes up The Imp. "In Moments of
Privacy read just one short
chapter to find Inspiration, Motivation
and fresh Purpose. IMProve
your life one sitting at a time."
Check out Shirley Cheng’s contribution, "Dance With Your
Heart".
Does she? You bet! Even with a body disfigured with severe juvenile
rheumatoid arthritis since infancy. You can obtain your own copy
of 101 Great Ways to Improve Your Life, Volume 2
at
http://www.shirleycheng.com/#101
At another sitting, Increase your Mind
Power reading Brian Walsh’s
"Memory and Learning" chapter. One simple way is to drink water.
Brian will explain why. Also in my personal library is Brian's book Unleashing Your Brilliance: Tools and Techniques to
Achieve
Personal, Professional and Academic Success.
http://www.UnleashingBrilliance.com
The Imp queries, "Looking eagerly forward to your next
sitting?"
Dear Bev,
I loved your latest E-newsletter! Your "What would you have done?"
question (newsletter #44 Oct.06)
has my mind pondering the
implications of various responses.
This pondering (that you're very good at stimulating in me)
really
helps both personally and professionally. If IMay
Paraphrase,
your Invitation for Meaningful Postulate
has once again IMPishly Ignited my Mental Processes.
It is with joy and gratitude that I
present my ideas re "What would you have done?":
The "What would you have done?" question is asking for a strategy
to resolve the "uncomfortable" situation.
In considering any strategy I first like to objectively look
at the
situation, experience my emotional response, understand my unmet
needs, and empathize or guess the emotions and unmet needs of the
other.
I remind myself of my beliefs that all people are "equal",
that no
one is "better" than any other one, and that each is doing the best
he/she can when put in the context of the "biggest of pictures".
I also like to remind myself of my belief that every
situation is
most effectively dealt with when each involved considers and acts
to make sure that his/her needs are met first, while respecting the
needs of others. I remind myself to let go of any attachment to
the strategy for resolving the "uncomfortable" and instead keep
focusing on meeting the needs of all involved.
So, to answer the question of "What would you have done?" (or
perhaps possibly answering the question of "What do you think you
would have done?" or even more honestly answering the question of
"What do you think you would have liked to have done had you acted
as you wish you had?"):
When a situation "doesn't feel good" the steps I go through are:
1. Objectively define the situation (just the "cold, hard,
irrefutable" facts).
2. Mentally process my emotional response to the situation by think-
ing about the situation, by thinking about what I can and cannot do
because of it, and by considering how it has affected my life.
Naming the emotions that are not compatible with unconditional love,
happiness, peace, etc. (Labeling the emotions that tend to pull me
out of my natural "feel good" state of being).
3. Physically process my emotional response to the situation. I do
this by first getting into the "feel good state" (note: If I do this
completely then I require no further processing).
Secondly, staying in the "feel good state" while allowing
myself to
think about the situation and "feel" my resulting "feelings" in my
body. Allowing and encouraging the feelings to be felt by noticing
the shape, texture, and any physical qualities. Accepting that the
feelings got into my body to help me. Being thankful for having the
feelings (the diversity enhances my appreciation of the human
experience). Being open on a subconscious level to any information
being made available during the processing of the feelings. Being
grateful that my body can process the feelings and return me to my
natural, wonderful "feel good" state of being. Being grateful that
the experience and information gained can be with me without harming
me, adding to my wisdom and enriching my human experience.
4. Come to an understanding about "What of my needs weren't being
met at the time?" or worded differently knowing "What was pulling
me out of the "feel good state" of unconditional love into fear?"
5. Empathize with the potential emotions and needs of the other
person.
6. Devise a strategy that addresses my needs while respecting the
needs of others...and not being attached to the strategy, just
meeting the needs.
So now, I have gotten to number 6: the strategy, where I actually
answer the question (it's about time, isn't it?):
Possible Strategy (here goes ... I am actually about to answer the
question ... for real this time):
Perhaps I would have waited about a week to see if the situation
would resolve without any input from me (this is a great strategy
when thing actually do work out but "worsens" the situation when
they don't work out).
Next I might have tried contact by phone (since letters are not
getting to the destination, the "letter writing" option would
have been more difficult to accomplish).
In any communication I would likely include that I believe it is
desirable in any situation for all involved to end up "feeling
good"... and that I am committed to that (and that alone). I'd have
let the client know that I was feeling perplexed and perhaps a
little hurt (i.e. my emotional response) because you (the client)
indicated that money was in the mail and my mailbox did not receive
it from you (the cold, hard, irrefutable facts).
Unless the situation got cleared-up at this point I would
likely
let the client know that I was guessing that she is not feeling too
good since she would have had unmet needs to be honest, responsible,
accountable...and that I was willing to assist her in meeting her,
as well as my own, needs. Then invite the client to tell me what
was happening on her end (hopefully in such a way that she would
know that I'm not judging, criticizing or blaming - just trying to
come up with some solution that works well for all involved).
Surely by this time the information that the money was sent would
have surfaced, an address check done, and the mystery solved.
I think that this strategy, if employed, could have resulted
in good
results for everyone because there was no blame (just the cold hard
facts), there was respect for each person's needs, and there was a
heartfelt commitment to existing in a spiritually abundant "feeling
good state".
Jennifer Bird
Note: Jennifer is a physiotherapist, clinical hypnotherapist,
energy worker and the Founder/President of the Vancouver Island
Healing Arts Network (She can be reached at 250-890-0059.)
The Imp adds that it should come as no surprise that
Jennifer's
slogan for her work is, "It feels good!"
Bev's response:
Dear Jennifer,
Thank you so much for caring enough to respond as you did. When I
first read your response, I got a lump in my throat and tears in my
eyes. I realized how utterly drained I felt at the time of my
mother's death (so I was in a do-not-act-on-it mode). As I have no
way of contacting the mystery client, it shall remain a mystery,
unless she chooses to contact me. I was as much concerned that she
didn't receive the resource materials I sent her.
She's in my prayers.
What challenges are you facing on your journey to greater
self-
empowerment? When your question is answered in this column, you'll
receive a complimentary 40-minute coaching consultation by phone or
a set of whimsical imp notecards.
Client names are changed to protect identity and maintain
confidentiality. Go ahead! send your questions to:
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Your question will be answered promptly.
No waiting until the next newsletter.
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"How about a gift for yourself," suggests The Imp. What came
to
mind immediately is Susan Castle's program. I attended a truly
heart-warming teleseminar of hers last week and was very inspired
by her. "Gift" yourself - discover and clear subconscious blocks
that prevent you from realizing your heart's deepest desires.
Go to
http://www.relax-online.com/cgi-bin/af/b.cgi/1370
The Imp was delighted to hear from Alison Roberts that the
first
sale of her book, Clutter's Dirty Secret,
to the U.S. was to a
subscriber of this newsletter.
www.cluttersdirtysecret.com
Jennifer Bird writes:
My mother just turned 75 and like your mom, knits a lot. Years
ago I wrote a poem for her. Feel free to share it.
Ode to a Woman Who Loved to Knit
There once was a woman who loved to knit...
She couldn't just sit. She had to do it.
Her three lovely daughters wore sweaters with pride:
They could not hide their affections inside.
Of hand-knit sox her husband would jest,
"With matching vest...they are the best!"
She's knit her craft almost anywhere...
But not in There, Congregation might stare!
To Church bazaars this woman would bring
"Knotty" things made from "bits" of strings.
We love you mom, you draw us near
And fill our hearts so full of cheer.
Thank you once again Bev for your inspiration. Jennifer.
My husband, Wray, drew the names of the 10 recipients of Inspirational Mystery Packages
who re-subscribed early.
They are:
Marilyn A. in B.C., Peggy L. and Cinda C. somewhere in the U.S.,
Karen B. and Barbara D. of Courtenay, B.C., Patreace S. of Surrey,
B.C., Dorthi W. and Patricia H. of Comox, B.C., Deb V. of
Campbell River, B.C., and Christine N., Alberta.
These results are indicative of the demographics: most
subscribers
are in my home province and most are women.
The Imp has promised to let the rest of you find out more
about the mystery package contents in December.
This month's tote bag is for Zaelyn with a yahoo email
address. Contact me with your postal address, Zaelyn, and I'll
have it in the mail to you promptly. The Imp adds that he just
might sneak in something from the mystery package...
There are 3 ways to win a "Live a Life of Inspiration,
Magic and Passion" tote bag.
1. Request game cards and mark your location on The Imp's guest
map. It's fun! There's only one rule to this game - don't get
caught doing it! http://www.theimpjournal.com/where-in-world.htm
2. During the first 2 months as a new subscriber.
3. When you purchase The Imp
Journal: Guided Journal Writing for
Personal Empowerment, Vol.1
Did you know The Imp Journal
provides a step-by-step plan for
personal growth with 23 weekly themes? And additional online
resources for the themes plus bonuses! http://www.theimpjournal.com/order-journal.htm
The Imp encourages you to write the quote on a card, read it
regularly, and then journal about your thoughts, insights,
feelings and, especially, actions.
As a bookaholic, I've chosen three! About books of course...
"Do give books - religious or otherwise - for Christmas.
They're
never fattening, seldom sinful, and permanently personal."
Lenore Hershey
"In the case of good books, the point is not how many of them
you
can get through, but rather how many can get through to you."
Mortimer Adler
"The greatest gift is a passion for reading. It is cheap, it
consoles, it distracts, it excites, it gives you the knowledge
of the world and experience of a wide kind. It is a moral
illumination."
Elizabeth Hardwick